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Will He Ever Marry You?

By: Cosmopolitan
Every woman knows how hard it is
when she puts in serious time with a guy who refuses to commit... until he moves on to his next girlfriend, and then suddenly, he's springing for a rock. Emm..check this out guys :)

Commitment Factor #1

The Capacity to Love. No matter how head-over-heels your guy is during the initial honeymoon period of the relationship, it doesn't mean he is ready to commit. A man might fall in love, which requires the capacity to idealize. That means thinking and feeling like his partner and the relationship are uniquely special, enabling him to ignore imperfections, which, in turn, makes him feel valued and special.
Loving, on the other hand, involves connecting with her and wanting to be with her for who she is, not who he'd like her to be.
While it might be difficult to decipher the difference between the two, one clue is the test of time. Falling in love happens early on in a relationship, when a couple barely knows each other. Once they become more intimate and learn more about each other's positive and negative traits and the initial love buzz is gone, a man who is only in love will lose interest. If he truly loves, he'll stay.
Another major telltale sign of real love is selflessness and the ability to care. Does your man make sacrifices for you? Is he able to put your wants and needs before his? Relationships are all about give and take, but love is more about giving.

Commitment Factor #2
Being Able to Accept Imperfection. Intellectually, we all know that there are no perfect people and, therefore, no perfect relationships. But it often takes maturity and dating experience to actually believe it.
Take a client of mine, who broke up with a wonderful woman simply because he thought he could do better. A year later, he met someone else, who was also great but far from perfect. After two years of dating, he decided to propose. If he had met her a few years earlier, he would have broken up with her too. But now, he realizes that this is as good as it gets, though it took him several relationships to finally understand that.
Having unrealistic expectations makes it impossible for a man to develop a close bond. If a guy who isn't ready starts getting too close to a woman, he'll look for imperfections, either consciously or subconsciously, to create distance between them and, ultimately, to give him a reason to break up with her.

Commitment Factor #3
He Truly Believes in Commitment. Even if a man tells you that he's in it for the long term, you won't really know the level of his staying power until you hit some rough patches. If he's not ready, he won't be able to handle the negative aspects of a relationship, and he'll either shut down -- and shut you out -- or bail. A man who is truly ready to bond will be willing to work with you to try to resolve whatever problems the two of you are having.

Commitment Factor #4
He's Sure He Can Be the Man. Even though stereotypical gender roles have loosened up and many men are no longer required to be the breadwinners, a lot of guys still worry, deep down, that they should be... and a lot of women still expect it. So if a guy feels that he can't live up to his -- or his partner's -- expectations, he might put off getting seriously involved to avoid feeling like he's not capable. It's a way for him to protect his ego.
According to the National Marriage Project, 47 percent of men agree that they wouldn't want to get married until they could afford to own a home, and 40 percent would want to be able to afford a nice wedding.

Commitment Factor #5
He's Tired of Playing Around. While there's no specific age at which single men are ready to marry (nor do they all mature at the same rate), after a while, going from one superficial relationship to another begins to lose its allure, and they crave a deeper kind of bond with someone.


Today, we were having our first and last photo-shoot with our classmate..4sgp.
Everyone looks gorgeous and handsome while putting a coat on their body. I love to see them in that appearance. Very PROFESSIONAL :)

There is about 2months to finished our studies. I hope we will achieve and success in our target and future.

P/s: Our best buddy, Miss Siti Qamariah bt Ahmad will get married soon. On 30 May 2009 at Kota Tinggi with her choosen one :) I'm excited to hear that. Luckly you to have a such good and polite future-husband. Good Luck and be a good and sopan-santun wife, hopefully *wink wink ;)*

xoxo excited la tgu abes study nih to wait for what will happen next! xoxo

Valentine and Genting

Where have u been on valentine?
I've just give them a big smile when they ask me such question :)
"Mane lagi, Genting Highlands la.."
There is a sweet-ever-moment i ever had with my loves one. Actually we are not exactly celebrate the valentine day..we were there just having some fun and spend our precious time together. We takes a bus from Terminal Gombak around 2pm and takes 45 minutes to arrived to Genting Skyway. Its not a long journey anyway. But i have a time to sleep.hehe.
We were come back to kL on 14 February 2009 and rushingly attend Mai's sister wedding at Kg. Padang Balang.
There are so much more I wish to say, but let it be conveyed by appreciating him every seconds of the day. Thanks my dear for the such wonderful day. Love it! :)

xoxo full of happiness xoxo

Myra Zailani

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